THIS IS ISSUE.017 OF THE SMRT LIST
In this edition of THE SMRT LIST, we’re going to chat about the number one thing that holds everyone back from their true potential, and why you’re stuck or still doing the same thing you were doing last year when you said you were going to change.
August… September…a signal that ‘summer is coming to an end’. But if your life is on point, who cares about the time and season, right? Labels and outcomes are so passé; every day is a Friday when you’re living your best life.
9 years ago, when I was sitting at my desk in my 9-5 in 2014 telling myself, “One day I’m going to have a life where I can ride my bike wherever and whenever I want.”
I made that my reality in 2016 and still going strong.
I have a life I don’t need a vacation from. I go to bed every night ecstatic about waking up the next day. Every day feels like a FriYAY. I love MonYAYS. People get annoyed at my optimism— but if you’re happy with your own life, you shouldn’t be easily triggered.
Since high school, I never cared about what anyone thought about me.
I can teach you how.
I left for Europe to cycle in the French Alps earlier this month and will be here indefinitely because I can work anywhere in the world. The thing is I rarely get excited about vacations… because my life is a vacation (but I am happy when I get there). I work from anywhere, anytime, and wake up whenever I want. I always have to practice gratitude because I planned for this time of freedom.
When people ask, I tell them it just feels like another day— a new office with a different view.
It’s a double-edged sword because when you’re going against the grain, it makes you think you’re doing something wrong. Society likes to trigger our monkey minds swaying us back to the current flow of convention and societal standards.
If you want to design a life from which you don’t need a vacation, you need to understand your monkey mind.
It’s your choice. How bad do you want it?
No. 1 Reason Why People Never Succeed & Stay Stuck
Hint: It’s all in your head.
We create our realities.
The Uncomfortable Truth: You’re afraid of what others think.
You hesitate to hit publish. Procrastinate on launching. That book remains unfinished. That selfie never sees the light of day. You never remarry after that nasty divorce.
You’re afraid of judgment. Mean comments from keyboard warriors hiding behind a screen. An uptight grammar nazi pointing out your incorrect usage of yours and you’re. Your childhood friend who doesn’t understand your worldview.
Someone, please tell me: ‘Who has time to care?’
Why care what insignificant strangers think? They probably haven’t left their houses in days. The only ones obsessing over trivial matters are those unhappy with their lives.
The Liberating Truth: Happy people have no reason to judge others. Surround yourself with them.
The longer you dwell in the shadows, fearing judgment, the greater your chance of slipping into mediocrity.
11 Reasons To Stop Caring What Other People Think
You may not want to hear it but let’s list why you need to stop caring about what other people think:
- Confidence is attractive.
- Stay present and focus on what matters most.
- Indestructible inner peace and freedom from your mind.
- Opinions often reflect others’ insecurities, not your reality.
- Embrace self-love; opinions can’t crack a foundation built on it.
- Redirect energy from seeking validation to building a life you love.
- Become a trendsetter, not a follower. Innovators break molds, not spirits.
- People gravitate toward authenticity, not approval-seeking masks. People-pleasing is a toxic trait.
- Become the author of your life. Don’t let others pen your story; make it a bestseller on your terms.
- Fearlessness curbs future regrets, ensuring bolder choices resulting in attracting more opportunities.
- The clock is ticking. Every moment spent worrying about opinions is a moment lost in the pursuit of your dreams.
How To Stop Caring What Other People Think Of You
1. Stop Being Selfish
Surprise, surprise – nobody obsesses over your life as you do, so step out of the shadows and live on your terms. Literally. No one cares about you but yourself. I have 99 problems and don’t have time for yours.
Action: Admit you’re selfish and ditch the people-pleasing game to break free to shatter the chains of societal expectations.
Mantra: “No one is coming to save me but myself.”
2. Admit You’re Fearful.
Your brain can’t fix what it isn’t aware of. Get off your high horse and know that you have shit to work on. No one is coming to save you and it’s your responsibility to take extreme accountability.
Action: Acknowledge your fears and embrace them as opportunities for growth.
Mantra: “I turn my fear into fuel.”
3. Revel in Insignificance
We’re just specks in the universe’s grand design. Blink, and the cosmos carries on without missing a beat. In our speck-sized existence in cosmic anonymity, we get one shot at life. Knowing that, live your life to the fullest and stop caring what others think.
So, why waste it worrying about what others think? Embrace insignificance to master destiny.
Action: Admit you don’t matter. Get off your high horse.
Mantra: “I’m tiny and insignificant in the grand scheme of things.”
4. Master Your Mind: Ego vs. Higher Selves
Your monkey brain is all about survival, keeping you away from anything unfamiliar. So when your friend evolves while you’re stuck in your comfort zone, your ego goes nuts. It’s just a signal that you need to get a move on it (blame our dopamine-driven brains).
This is where your higher self needs to step in a call out the monkey’s shenanigans, urging you to embrace change and growth. Don’t let your ego control your reality.
Action: Be an observer of your thoughts. When emotions arise triggered by anyone or anything, ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this way? What do they have that I don’t have?”
Mantra: “I rise above my ego and embrace my true potential.”
5. Reframing: From Jealousy to Inspiration
The classic human paradox. We trash-talk those who promote themselves and post irrelevant selfies— but selfies get the most likes?! 🤷🏻♀️ It’s your monkey brain protecting you from your insecurities because they have traits you don’t have that you desire. Who doesn’t want to be confident, energetic, and a people magnet?! You can argue you don’t but I bet you do because it’s human nature.
We’re wired to be part of a community because if we don’t have a tribe, we’ll be eaten by predators.
Action: Turn intimidation into inspiration. When someone intimidates you, get curious and ask yourself, “Why am I so jealous or afraid of this person?” What is it bringing out in myself?”
Mantra: “I need to get to know everyone who intimates so I can grow.
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- Fear of others’ opinions is the primary barrier to potential.
- Break free by embracing discomfort and stepping out of your comfort zone.
- Nobody cares about your life as much as you do; ditch people-pleasing.
- Acknowledge your fears as opportunities for growth.
- Embrace insignificance; don’t waste time worrying about others’ thoughts.
- Master your mind: let your higher self-guide you, not your ego.
- Turn jealousy into inspiration; learn from those who intimidate you.
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